Is it Necessary to kiss
Posted by Patrick Corkum on April 13, 2010
The conversation went something like this:
Melissa: I’ll blog about it if you’ll blog about it.
Okay, you know your life is a little weird when that phrase comes out!
Patrick: Ummm…. I’ll blog about it if you have *** with me 
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Ahhh yes, the difference between men and women. I don’t get women when it comes to this kind of thing. Okay, let me rephrase. I don’t get my wife when it comes to this kind of thing as I am sure most of you men can understand. Oh, perhaps I should explain. We got to THAT part of the conversation from here:
Melissa: Kiss me.
Patrick: Ummm…. No.
Okay, STOP! I love my wife and I kiss her all the time. This isn’t me being a prick. This is me saying that we each have weird sicknesses going on.
Melissa: I’m not having *** with you if you don’t kiss me.
Patrick: Ummm…. What? <Insert monolog about *** life and kissing here>
Melissa: Well, I want to feel emotionally attached.
Patrick: Ummm…. What have we been doing for the last 10 years? If we’re not emotionally attached now, we’ve got an issue!
Melissa: But I mean in the moment.
Patrick: Ummm… I’ll tell you what I want in the moment.
I want to know why women think that 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 does not apply to them! Where does it talk about her mood? Or her “feeling emotionally attached due to kissing?”
Oh, and you bring up 1Cor 7:3-5, you might as well have signed a death warrant on you *** life. That being said, I wonder if I should have wrote that…
Patrick-
Loved this post. Been there so often. Elise and I often talk about the difference of intimacy between us. Mine having more to do with physical touch and “feeling” respected. Hers having more to do with time spent and feeling loved.
Thanks for sharing.
Greg
You and Melissa make me laugh. I love how open and honest you are in your blogs. I wanted to share something Steve & I learned almost 16 years ago. When Steve and I were first married, we watched a video series on marriage by Gary Smalley. Gary gave an illustration I will never forget. He said that men are like matches–they ignite in an instant. Woman are like ovens–they take a while to heat up. I was reading 1 Corinthans 7 in several different translations. In the NLT, verse 3 says, “The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs.” I like that.
I suggest that you try to kiss, hug and do nice things for Melissa throughout the day–start her oven and see what happens!
The Greek word is not so much “need”, but that which is owed. I like the NRSV (conjugal duties).